'Love and Hip Hop Hollywood' Cast: 6 Things We Can Learn From the Toxic Relationships of Teirra Mari, Hazel E, Yung Berg & Ray J [VIDEO]
"Love and Hip Hop Hollywood" can actually teach you a thing or two about what not do with someone you love, once you look at the people behind the constant ratchet outbursts.
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Episode seven of "Love and Hip Hop Hollywood" was especially painful to watch. There are various intimate relations happening between members of the cast. With the exception of Omarion and Apryl (and sometimes Nia and Soulja), all of the couples could use a sit down with Iyanla Vanzant to fix their lives. Still, watching Yung Berg laugh at Hazel and Ray shut Teairra down, did teach us a few things about dealing with the person you love.
1. If a man (or woman) says he doesn't want you, believe him the first time.
Hazel E seems like a nice girl, but on the show, she ignores Yung Berg's constant efforts to push her away. Even in our exclusive interview, she admitted that she "got played" by him, but the truth is, from what we've seen on the show-- She played herself. When a man (or woman) has the cajones to literally laugh in your face, you put yourself at their beck and call by ignoring the signs.
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2. A--holes get old, quick.
Ok, so at some point in most women's lives, they are attracted to a man that they know is no good for them. Still, no person can help the way they feel and that's okay. But, both Teairra and Hazel got a dose of the true a--holes they chose to give their hearts to during episode seven. The thing about a--holes is, it's cute for a moment, but eventually they are assholes to you, too. Pay attention to the way a person you love, treats others.
3. Being a side-chick is never a good thing.
Let's just stop the madness people. Just because people glorify and use the term "side-chick" in everyday vernacular --as well as in tweet-worthy rap lyrics-- does not mean it is something anyone should allow himself or herself to be. During episode seven, fans saw exactly what happens when the person you care about refuses care about you.
Teairra had to fight back tears when Ray told her that he never "thought" they were "together." Hazel had to pick her own belongings up off of the floor after she attacked Berg in his car. Emotions, real ones, are not to be played with. If you are okay with being someone's priority every now and then (and you want something more serious), it may be time for some self-love. Exhibit A-->
4. Set discussed boundaries.
Hazel cared about Berg a little too much. In the first episode, fans watched her tell him that she was his "b-tch," who would "hold him down" no matter what. While Hazel thought this declaration of her feelings for him would make him realize and possibly reciprocate her feelings, it only left the door wide open for him to come and go as he pleased. So, when he was done with her, he left her with her feelings, a track and false hope. That all could have been avoided if Hazel said, "It's me or nothing," and walked away. If you know what you want, stay disciplined and don't accept anything less.
5. Moving on is hard. REALLY, really hard... But it has to happen, eventually.
Teairra and Ray had something going on for nine years. While we do not know if the something was good or bad, or real, both do admit to being (at least physically) together at some point in time. When Ray came to Teairra's party to embarrass her, besides showing that he needs anger management, he showed that he cared enough to want to hurt her. If you don't care, you move on. He could've had the bag shipped, used Uber delivery or sent his assistant to her house.
There are still a lot of feelings there, and the fact that they are working on this show together makes it even harder to get on with their lives. But, again, you never want to get to the point where someone shows they don't care and proves it to hurt you. You can't get over someone you still go out of your way to talk to, and you might not want to. It's a process.
6. Know your worth and act accordingly.
Once you acknowledge how special you are, it is hard to deal with people who do not treat you with the same admiration. Yes, it's cliché, but it's true. Your time is the most important gift you can give anyone, because it's yours. Hazel and Teairra have yet to step into their worth and wasted their time to go out of their way to deal with men who wanted to hurt them more than value their time. But, no experience is wasted and after seeing themselves on TV, this may have helped them get a bit closer.
If all else fails, just remember what Oprah said.
If you missed the episode, watch it below.