The problem with advice is, it only works when the person you are giving it to wants to hear it. Video vixen turned author Karrine Steffans learned that the hard way when she tried to warn Christina Milian about the man she claims as her #MCM (man crush Monday) on Instagram.

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Karrine Steffans and Lil' Wayne have a long history. Though he does his best to not speak on the women he deals with, Steffans wrote about their drawn out history in her first book, "Confessions of a Video Vixen," released in 2006, and it seems like the two will never close that chapter no matter who is in the picture. For the past several months, Milian seems to be Wayne's newest girlfriend.

She briefly spoke about their relationship when she appeared on "The Wendy Williams Show" to promote her new E! reality show, "Christina Milian Turned Up." Though she did not call him her boyfriend, she did call him her "Man Crush Everything," and added, "We have a great chemistry and a great involvement in each other's life... I want to protect that."

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Milian even posted, then deleted, a post on her Instagram dedicated to Lil' Wayne.

. Well, Ms. Steffans thinks she should slow her roll and warned her on Instagram, saying, "Little girl, be careful not to claim a man who belongs to the world," in a post of a street sign with the name "Wayne." Milian boldly responded on a different celebrity blog, "It's such a shame a woman has to settle for that mentality when no man has ever cared to claim that. #Whatsmineismine."

Oop! #ChristinaMilian came to The Shade Room and clapped back! Watch #KarrineSteffans take it back! #ClapbackSeason A photo posted by The Shade Room (@theshaderoominc) on Jan 15, 2015 at 8:37am PST


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Karrine Steffans then responded with another long post, basically telling her that she was not trying to throw "shade," but simply warning her to "pay attention to patterns" of the person you are dealing with. In short, Wayne will always be Wayne.

 Here's the thing about life. Not everything is about you. And if someone says or does something that has nothing to do with you but, somehow, you feel convicted by it, that says a lot more about you and your insecurities than it does about the other person. Not everything is shade. Some shit is just the truth. But not every palm tree or personal truth belongs to you. Other people have experiences, too, and their account of those experiences has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. Confidence is key and not everyone has it. This is obvious. Also, here's the thing about men. They do what they want, how they want, when they want, and with whom they want. Just like women. Because of this, be careful when pouring expectations into people. We all have a history but look at a person's patterns. I have mine. You have yours. The next person has theirs and they all tend to repeat. Know the difference between being one option on a very long list of options and being the one and only. Be truthful with yourself about the state of your affairs and you'll never be mad a day in your life. None of us belong to eachother and we all belong to God. Be well.

A photo posted by Karrine & Co.® (@karrineandco) on Jan 15, 2015 at 11:10am PST


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